Once a nerdy, skinny professor of philosophical psychology who couldn’t hold a conversation to save his life, David is now director of Aura Transformation Corp., and a world renowned dating and life coach using therapeutic methods.
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In episode 24, I answer the question how to command more respect from other men.
Masculinity for the Intelligent Man. I am David Tian, Ph.D., and this is: Man Up.
Hi, I’m David Tian and welcome to Man Up, episode 24. Got a question from Tim here in the private Facebook group: Hi David, as someone who looks way too young for his age, it’s hard to command respect until I’ve proven myself which works fine in a professional workplace and social circles but if I’m out at a bar, chatting with attractive women, I often have jealous, physically imposing dudes butting into our conversation and trying to out-dominate me.
How can someone like me command respect, in general? Okay, so commanding respect. It’s good to earn respect, so he does that in his workplace and among his friends but on a first impression – basically what you’re asking is first impressions question. His first impression is that he is young and is able to be bullied or not taken seriously. It’d help to have a good idea of what you looked like and all that so I can help you.
But if you don’t have good presence physically, if you don’t have good physical presence and you look young, there are a lot of easy ways to look old. One easy way is to actually build muscle. Eat a lot more. This is a common problem for younger guys especially if you’re Asian or coming from a Southeast Asian genetic mix, you’re probably a hard gainer as a young person. What you think is a lot of food is not anywhere near as much food as you need to eat.
You need to eat like it’s your job. Take some mass gainers if you need to. I wouldn’t start with that, I’d just try to eat more. But if you’re eating 2000 calories a day and you’re not gaining weight, you should go see a doctor. There’s probably something wrong with your digestive system. Get bigger – that helps. Obviously that takes time but it’ll be good on all kinds of measures – it’ll be good emotionally, mentally and obviously physically, better for your health.
Dress older – I’m wearing a jacket that makes me look older. If I was wearing just a tank top or singlet, I’ll look young. If I shave completely, I’ll look young. If I let this grow a few days, I’ll look older. I have a young haircut, if I wanted to have an older haircut I could just do a more mature comb over.
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